08 May 2016

The "Perfect" Mother

When Christina Paulsson shared these thoughts with me, and it occurred that her experience represents the experience of many others and the hope she expresses here might also resonate. 

Guest post author Christina Paulsson, her mother, and sister.
I'm sitting here in my PJs at 4:50 a.m. contemplating Mother's Day. Remembering Mother's Days with hymns of motherhood and sermons on Proverbs 31. Of all the mothers standing up... getting prayed for... being handed carnations.

I remember as a little girl being in awe of all of the perfect mommies with their curly headed darlings and longing for the day I could be among them.

I think we've got it all wrong.

What about the mothers who definitely don't have it all together? What about the dads, daughters, and grandmothers who are left to raise the family when mom is gone? What about those who long to be mothers and never will be? The ones who have lost little ones.

John Newton, who lost his mother as a boy and who is famous for being a wretch, wrote the hymn "Amazing Grace": “Through many dangers, toils and snares...” Sound like motherhood?

I think my mother is an amazing woman who has done an amazing job of raising her kids to the best of her ability. I think my mother in law raised an amazing man.

But my moms' greatest gift to us is the picture they painted of grace. That they love us no matter what we do, that they are loved no matter what they do.

I don't know why motherhood and life are surrounded by such pain. But grace is knowing, even if we do absolutely nothing right, that God loves us and is for us. "Grace has brought us safe thus far, and grace will lead us home."

Hold on with all your might to the grace of God. Bring someone a meal, or a latte. Be real. And live in grace.

1 comment:

  1. Lord knows we try our best and fail - in everything we do - even when we, in hour human hearts stand back and admire our handiwork. You are so right on that only God is perfect and only His grace covers "a wretch like me".