Gentry McKeown has been a friend since we met several years ago at a mutual friend's birthday party. We've had some lively discussions about religion, politics, and other stuff, and she graciously agreed to share her story here.
to start off, could you describe your growing up experience, your
perspective on life then, and how your perspective started to change?
was born and raised in Oklahoma City, the heart of the Bible Belt, so
it’s no surprise I grew up in a Christian household and attended a
fairly conservative Southern Baptist church. I went to Sunday school
every week, participated in the youth group, and was even saved at
the age of six.
sister and I were home-schooled, so our only social interaction was
with friends we met at church. Because I was always surrounded by
like-minded people, I accepted Christianity without question and
believed the Bible was the literal word of god.
I got older, I studied the Bible on my own. I began to question the
stories they taught me in Sunday school, and I read the ones they
didn’t. The more I read, the more I began asking myself questions
like: How can Jesus be his own father? Why would god give Adam and
Eve free will but place forbidden fruit in the garden? Why did god
murder innocent children in the flood? Does god actually want women
to submit to their husbands? Why does god demand a blood sacrifice
for sins anyway? Are gay people going to hell? Is god really
endorsing slavery in Deuteronomy 21? And exactly how many people were
burned because of Exodus 22:18?
more I read the Bible, the more it sounded like a fairytale, and I
began to feel stupid for believing it. And I decided that even if
those stories were true, who wants to worship that kind of god
you started having questions, did you ask others about them? Did you know others who were wrestling with similar
my early teens, I had no idea if anyone else had similar thoughts. My
church didn’t exactly encourage critical thinking, and I was too
afraid to ask questions openly in Sunday school because I felt I’d
be judged. It was very alienating.
though I didn’t really discuss my doubts with my friends or family,
I prayed about it. I asked god to speak to me through the scripture, but I never felt his presence. I felt like I was praying to a god
that didn’t exist.
older I got, the less concerned I became about expressing my
skepticism. When my church played a video series about young-earth creationism, I knew I’d had enough. This experience led me to
realize that Christianity isn’t open-minded; it only accepts
evidence that fits the Christian worldview. After I reached this
conclusion, I didn’t care who knew I felt this way. Finally, I got
the courage to tell my parents I didn’t like our church and didn’t
want to go anymore.
tried attending one of those new progressive churches—the kind with
a rock band and a positive message—but the entire service felt like
superficial, self-help nonsense. The sermons never addressed the
burning questions I had about Christianity. Each Sunday, I felt like
I was sitting in a room full of mindless people who never questioned
anything and were more concerned about the complementary coffee and
donuts than learning about the word of god or really understanding
I stopped attending church altogether and started entertaining the
idea of classifying myself as agnostic.
mentioned dissatisfaction with Christian teaching on topics such as
wives submitting to their husbands, gays going to hell, or the need
for a blood sacrifice. What do you believe about these things now?
And how does an agnostic or atheistic outlook make better sense of
these issues for you?
I was a Christian, I had difficulty reconciling these Biblical
teachings with what I thought was true. Now I understand that these
are just false beliefs held by deluded individuals–many of whom are
so indoctrinated, they don’t even realize they’re perpetuating
Christians are horrified by the inequality of women in countries like
Iran, but they don’t recognize that the unequal treatment and
forced submission of women in the Church are just milder forms of the
same misogynistic mentality. The Bible was also used to justify
slavery and discrimination against African Americans throughout our
country’s history–something we can all agree is abhorrent—but
now Christians are using it to justify discrimination against
homosexuals and deny them basic civil rights. I find it disturbing
and ironic that, when it comes to dealing with others, Christians
tend to be the most unchristlike. In the future, we’ll look back at
how we treated our fellow human beings and be ashamed.
is why religion in all forms is detrimental to society. The religious
waste time legislating morality and arguing about superstitions and
dogma rather than fostering a love for humanity and focusing on
improving our world. I’ve been accused of having no moral compass
because I don’t believe in god, but I can’t imagine anything more
repulsive and immoral than surrendering reason, hindering progress,
and, as Richard Dawkins once said, being “satisfied with not
understanding the world.”
I wouldn’t accuse you of having no moral compass. I can remember
moments when you had more apparent charity than I had, but it is
curious you think “christlikeness” is desirable—or at least
more desirable than the behavior of many Christians. How would you
defend your idea of what is true or reasonable? How would you
determine whether a development is progress or regress?
Sometimes I use the word ‘christlike’ because it’s a concept people understand. When I say that, I simply mean treating others the way you want to be treated. However, I do think someone could be raised with no religion or knowledge of Christ and still know what's right and what's wrong. To me, it’s just common sense.
I’ll admit, however, that what seems reasonable or good to me, may not seem reasonable to someone else. Take women’s rights for example. One may argue that a Muslim man who requires his wife to wear a burqa and won’t allow her to drive a car or walk on the street by herself doesn’t feel she’s being oppressed. If she is legitimately happy not having a job, staying at home to raise her children, serving her husband, who am I judge?
Situations like these are still troubling, however, because oftentimes, people accept a deplorable situation without question because it’s the only reality they’ve ever known. Because of their faith, their worldview is limited. They don't know what they’re capable of and they’re never given the opportunity to find out. This is just one example. The repression of women isn’t limited to the Muslim faith. I witnessed it in my own Southern Baptist church as a child.
This is all just my long-winded way of saying that religion is harmful. Imagine the millions of hours we spend in church, reading religious texts and praying to a god that doesn’t exist. Now imagine what the world would be like if those hours were invested in medical research, finding cures for diseases, studying our universe and bettering our communities. It’s only natural for people to want to understand their place in the world, but the answer doesn’t lie in religion.
When I realized that I only needed to look to science to find answers, I felt as if a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I’m no longer afraid of a god who judges me and threatens me with eternal damnation. I now know I’m the only one in control my life and that’s exhilarating. When you believe you won’t spend forever in heaven and that your time on this planet is fleeting, life is a little more beautiful.